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But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. – Matthew 5:28

Every second – $3,075.64 is being spent on pornography, Every second – 28,258 Internet users are viewing pornography, Every 39 minutes: a new pornographic video is being created in the United States?.

I’ve never met anyone who is addicted to porn who is actually proud of it. Everyone I meet is hurting, has caused pain to people around them, and longing for a way out. It’s the easiest thing to hide, but one of the hardest things to come clean to somebody about. The shame can be almost unbearable. So how can you get free?

1.) Repent and Pursue God - In James it says, if you draw near to God, He’ll draw near to you. Though you’ll feel so distant from God it’s not even funny, if you’ll pursue Him, His desires will start becoming your desires, and porn will become less and less of a temptation.

2.) Recognize You’re Not Alone - There are millions of people struggling with the exact same thing you are and feeling the exact same way you are. You’re not alone.

3.) Humble Yourself and Tell Somebody that Loves you Unconditionally – This is the hardest step. Find somebody you know will love you regardless, and will walk you through the journey to freedom.

4.) Get Accountability - The video above is promoting 2 programs: X3Watch and Safe Eyes - both are accountability software that will block sites you shouldn’t be going to, and send any questionable sites you do visit to two accountability partners of your choice.

5.) Control Your Thoughts - You can control your thoughts – that is a fact. Philippians says to think on Good things only! What you put in your heart through what you watch and listen to, will fill your thought life. If you’ve been watching porn for a while, you’re probably filled with bad thoughts. Focus on putting positive deposits into your heart (go to church, listen to sermons, read great articles). Garbage in, Garbage Out. Purity in, Purity out!

Another Great Resource is XXX Church which is headed up by Craig Gross – you’ll find tons of great videos and articles to help you.

I hope this helps you – if you’re in need of someone to talk to – Send me a message on Facebook – I’d love to talk to you.

¹⁷ As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. -Proverbs 27:17

This is not a post bashing Tiger Woods. If you got all the money and influence he received at such a young age, there’s no telling what you’d of done with it. My prayer is that God will bring people into his life to love on him and lift him, and he’ll  come back and use his influence for the Kingdom of God. However, I do believe if Tiger had people in his life that could tell him no that he’d listen to, he wouldn’t be in the position he is in today.

I once heard a pastor tell of a time when he got to counsel Deon Sanders. The pastor said, “Deon, all your life, you’ve been able to have anything you want, when you want it. My question to you is, Who can tell you no that you’ll actually listen to?”

Anybody who has ever struggled with lust, sex, affairs, or pornography knows how tough of a battle it can be. Nobody plans on having an affair, becoming addicted to porn, being publically humilated, and having to apologize to the entire world.

However, these are just outcomes of untamed thought lives. The truth is, if people who struggle with these things would have had people in their lives that could tell them no, and keep them accountable, they could have missed out on a world of hurt.

I encourage you to find someone in your life who you can be honest with and share your heart with. Make sure it’s someone who will have the courage to tell you NO.

Have them ask you these questions:

1.) Have you been thinking about anything you shouldn’t be thinking about?

2.) Have you been looking at anything you shouldn’t be looking at?

3.) Have you been going anywhere you shouldn’t be going?

4.) Have you been hanging out with anyone you shouldn’t be hanging out with?

5.) Have you been doing anything you shouldn’t be doing?

Who in your world can tell you no? You better find them and listen to them – they can save you from a world of pain.